Are you tired of being single?
Are you frustrated not getting the results you want in the dating world?
Are there patterns in your love relationship?
My name is Theresa Cretella and I love being a dating coach! I help my clients find love and attract a healthy, happy relationship and what could be better than that? I have been guiding people in the areas of intimacy, dating, and relationship since 2012. I’m very sensitive, intuitive, and skilled at giving useful feedback to my clients and helping them remove the blocks that are holding them back from ultimately finding love.
What I hear a lot from my clients is that their lives feel very complete in the area of work, family, friends, and with some, finances. Yet, they still feel that something is missing. And the important piece that will make them feel whole, fulfilled, and complete is a love partner.
Many of my clients are looking for healthier places to meet other singles. By getting to understand what they are looking for, and through a variety of resources available to me I am able to provide them with many new opportunities, including events that I personally lead on a monthly basis in the South Bay. One thing’s for sure, you’re not likely to meet the love of your love staying home on a weekend night and watching Netflix or doing something on your computer. Since we know that doing things the same way will produce the same results, we explore their current ways of interacting. In order to get different results we take time at the end of each session to agree on “Love work” for them to do out in the world. This accountability piece makes all the difference in the world.
Many of my male clients hold themselves back on dates by walking on eggshells and thus moving too slowly physically for fear that they might cross a boundary and upset their date. The end result is that they hear from the woman that “there’s no chemistry” which is probably because she sees him as a brother or friend. They’ve now ended up in the dreaded “friend zone” and can’t get out of it. I encourage them to be themselves, access their masculinity, and trust their gut. We look at past experiences, messages from their moms, or society, that may have influenced them. We work to clear these by using NLP and other techniques. Ultimately, I give my clients permission to be themselves in the world and I also give them tools and exercises on how to access their masculine energy.
Fear of rejection comes up in almost every session and when it does, we look at the root of this fear. During the coaching session, I create a safe laboratory to role-play how to approach and have a conversation with someone they are interested in. Like a muscle that we exercise, clients feel more confident and stronger over time. My clients try on new behaviors like flirting, asking someone out, and hearing no while not being attached to the outcome. We also practice how to stand, talk and move, to portray confidence and ease. Over time my clients embody these traits and in turn become more attractive.
Another common thread is that my clients are continually attracting the wrong partner. We go deep in exploring this challenge by making a list of all the qualities they want in a relationship and what the deal breakers are. I have been very successful with visualization techniques and showing my clients how to manifest their desires.
Another obstacle many people face is the dynamic of still being attached to a previous partner, thus keeping them from moving on to the next relationship. This attachment may show up in the form of missing them, unresolved anger, or hurt. When this occurs, we explore any unfinished business they may have with a previous love relationship or even a parent, which often creates a fear of intimacy. I have a very powerful tool for cutting the cord or detaching energetically from someone in the past and it has proven to be very effective. In fact, I had a female client who after doing this exercise, met the love of her life a week or two later! And, they’re still together. 🙂
When clients keep bumping up against the same obstacle, or challenge, while dating or in relationships, then this has become a pattern. When this happens I have a very powerful technique for retraining the amygdala, which is the part of the brain responsible for fight or flight. We also explore limiting beliefs that they may have from childhood or society.
We then release the beliefs, and create affirmations, which ultimately create space for the desired relationship.
I conduct my client coaching sessions via Zoom
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I look forward to hearing from you. 🙂