What is Heart-Centered Coaching?

As a Dating Coach I use heart centered techniques to work with singles of all ages and all phases of the dating process. Heart-Centered Coaching is a practice of receiving guidance and support around challenges that you are facing in finding love. We look at two things:

What do you want in a love relationship?

What’s standing in the way of getting what you want?

In order to assist you, as my client, in attracting the love you deserve and desire, we do a lot of role playing in a safe environment and we often go on practice dates. We look for and explore the areas that you feel stuck in. Whether it be how to approach someone you are attracted to, how to communicate with your date, or read their cues. I give weekly Love Work so that you can practice your skills out in the world and try on new behaviors.

 Why should I contact a Heart-Centered Coach? 

You should contact a Heart-Centered Coach if:

• You are ready to meet the love of your life/soulmate.
• You are returning to dating after a divorce or a breakup
• You have not been getting the desired results in dating.
• You want to improve your flirting skills.
• You want to feel more comfortable around rejection.
• You want to be better at reading your date’s cues.
• You looking for ways in which to meet the right person.

Are you tired of being single?

What I hear a lot from my clients is that their lives feel very complete in the area of work, family, friends, and with some, finances. Yet, they still feel that something is missing.

And the important piece that will make them feel whole, fulfilled, complete is a love partner.

Many of my clients are looking for healthier places to meet other singles. By getting to understand what they are looking for, and through a variety of resources available to me I am able to provide them with many new opportunities. Including events that I personally lead on a monthly basis in the South Bay. One thing’s for sure, you’re not likely to meet the love of your love staying home on a weekend night and watching Netflix or doing something on your computer. Since we know that doing things the same way will produce the same results, we explore their current ways of interacting. In order to get different results we take time at the end of each session to agree on “Love work” for them to do out in the world.

Do you have a difficult time approaching the other gender?

Fear of rejection comes up in most every session. When it does, we look at the root of this fear. During the coaching session , I create a safe laboratory to role play how to approach and have a conversation with someone they are interested in. Like a muscle that we exercise, clients feel more confident and stronger over time. My clients try on new behaviors like flirting, asking someone out, and hearing no while not being attached to the outcome. We also practice how to stand, talk and move, to portray confidence and ease. Over time my clients embody these traits and in turn become more attractive.

Many of my male clients hold themselves back on dates by walking on eggshells and thus moving too slowly physically for fear that they might cross a boundary and upset their date. The end result is that they hear from the women that “there’s no chemistry” which is probably because she sees him as a brother or friend. They’ve now ended up in the dreaded “friend zone” and can’t get out of it. I encourage them to be themselves, access their masculinity and trust their gut. We look at past experiences, messages from their moms, or society, that may have influenced them. We work to clear these by using NLP and other techniques. Ultimately, I give my clients permission to be themselves in the world and I also give them tools and exercises on how to access their masculine energy.

What are the patterns in your love relationship?

When clients keep bumping up against the same obstacle, or challenge, while dating or in relationships, then this has become a pattern. When this happens I have a very powerful technique for retraining the amygdala, which is the part of the brain responsible for fight or flight. We will explore limiting beliefs that they may have from childhood, or society. We then release the beliefs, create affirmations, which ultimately creates space for your desired relationship.

What if you are continually attracting the wrong partner? 

We go deep in exploring this challenge by making a list of all the qualities you want in a relationship and what the deal breakers are. I have been very successful with visualization techniques and showing my clients how to manifest their desires.

Are you attached to a previous partner? 

Are you not moving on to the next relationship?   This attachment may show up in the form of missing them, unresolved anger or hurt. When this occurs, we explore any unfinished business you may have with a previous love relationship or even a parent, which often creates a fear of intimacy. I have a very powerful tool of cutting the cord or detaching energetically from someone in the past and it has proven to be very effective. In fact, I had a female client who after doing this exercise,met the love of her life a week or two later! And, they’re still together. 🙂 

Who is the perfect client?

For me, the perfect client is someone who is ready to do what it takes to reach their goal of finding love. Someone who pushes through their fears and is willing to try new things to get what they want in life. The clients who get the most results coach with me on a weekly basis. Although I work with men and women of all ages, I tend to attract a lot of male engineers who are highly educated, very happy with their work and are needing some guidance in the area of dating and meeting women.

Where do the Heart-Centered Coaching sessions take place?

I coach clients in my home office in Santa Cruz and I also have an office space in San Jose. Many of my clients enjoy our coaching sessions by phone. Some take advantage of calling into a conference call that is recorded so that they can access the information in the future. Others chose to have their sessions via Skype.

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